2) Positive affirmations only include positive words. If you see a positive affirmation that has words like “don’t,” “can’t” or “won’t,” it’s not a statement you’ll want to repeat. It takes your brain a lot of extra work to get past negative statements and transform them into positive ones.
“I am a strong black woman and I cannot be intimidated.” – Maxine WatersDoesn’t that statement just ooze self-empowerment?Congresswoman Maxine Waters’ clap back to Bill O’Reilly’s crude criticism of her hair earlier this year reminded all too many of us of times when we’ve similarly been tried at work (see #blackwomenatwork). The unfortunate reality is that there will always be people that get under our skin, jobs we don’t particularly want to be in and situations that scream for not-so-positive reactions.What’s the key to pushing through? You have to stay mentally and emotionally ready. One way to do this is to internalize and truly live by reinforcing statements that uplift your spirit on a daily basis. Here are 85 powerful affirmations to remind you that you’re amazing, inspire self-love and bring you back to a place of positivity when you’ve had enough. Confidence CheckWe’re our own toughest critics.
Self-CareSometimes we overwork ourselves, so much to the point that we don’t have the energy for self-care. We all need TLC; a huge part of that is rest and balance.
It's wise to be aware of how a person might unconsciously thwart a partner’s efforts to speak this particular love language. Applying the WoA language is not just a tick-box exercise, giving x number of compliments per day. What matters most is that each praise or compliment is sincere. In applying the principles she learned from The Five Love Languages, the author of this page has further realised how important it is to take the time to think deeply about what you offer up as Words of Affirmation to your spouse and to ensure that what you say is honest, specific and deserved.If you cannot find anything genuinely complimentary to say about your partner, then you are likely taking them for granted and not looking hard enough hard enough to appreciate their real worth.
Flattery, insincere or excessive praise or words spoken to cajole or manipulate a person into doing or giving something, is not conducive to a maintaining a healthy long term relationship.It is often said that if you cannot find anything good to say about a person, say nothing. Likewise, if you cannot give praise or compliments without requiring something in return, say nothing - lest eventually the other person may see through you and start to doubt everything you say. The poll in this article reveals that it is common to lose heart when a partner routinely spurns receiving this Love Language.Whilst wanting to give up is understandable in these circumstances, the thing to do is to allow your partner the benefit of the doubt and gently let them know that it is hoped they will grow to accept that the Words of Affirmation spoken are sincere and freely given, that nothing is expected in return and there is no ulterior motive other than to strengthen the relationship and express true feelings. If a person responds to their partner’s expressed compliments by telling them that they are “just saying it” because they feel obliged to and/or that they don’t really mean it anyway, then they may well be inadvertently dooming all efforts to failure.When on the receiving end of WoA, refrain from automatically rejecting a partner’s opinion or saying things like “it was nothing” or contradicting them by saying “no, this outfit look hideous” People should not put themselves down by insisting that anyone could have done. Better.It is counterproductive to say these sort of things to someone who has taken the time and effort to acknowledge and praise in a positive way.
If a person thinks their partner is beautiful and says so, then that partner is best advised to accept the compliment, rather than deny it. After all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.Moreover, if a husband or wife goes out of their way to honestly observe and appreciate their partner only to be met with continual rebuffs, contradiction, insults and/or suspicion, they may soon give up making the effort to give encouragement, emotional support, compliments and Words of Affirmation. It’s vital to check oneself and determine if rejecting compliments etc has become a seamless habit. When this happens it becomes a case of one step forwards, two steps back in terms of rekindling romance and strengthening a couple’s bond.It helps to remember that the other person is NOT a mind reader. Thus communicating that more acknowledgement and praise is wanted is a way forward to obtain what is desired.
With this in mind it's futile to effectively snub compliments when recognition of worth was recognised as needed to help advance the relationship.Be cautious of giving mixed signals by fishing or asking for something and then rejecting it when it is given because of resentment at having had to ask for it in the first instance! For example a spouse might complain that their partner barely or never has anything good to say about them but then go on to dismiss any subsequent Words of Affirmation that come their way. An analogy of this would be requesting/ordering a salad in a restaurant and then dismissing a delicious salad when the waiter subsequently serves it because you feel you should not have had to tell the waiter that you wanted a salad and the waiter should have read your mind and served up the salad unsolicited. Madness, no!Many men and women may not spontaneously realise that they are seeking more compliments but then shooting things down in flames by not accepting them!
If the cap fits, it's advisable to muse along the lines of'well maybe he/she is initially just saying stuff because I told/reminded them I wanted more compliments - but I will now simply accept each compliment as graciously as possible and, if the compliments and WoA keep coming for the long term without my continual reminders, then I will know they are genuine.' Thus, over time, a person can become more naturally inclined to feel warm and accepting of a partner's earnest affirmations.If you can identify with dismissing WoA too frequently, aim to put effort into accepting praise graciously and allowing yourself some time for feeling comfortable about the authenticity of such praise.
For those wanting the tools and know-how to nourish, sustain or rekindle love and romance in their relationship over the long term, then the book Five Love Languages is a worthy investment indeed.Words of Affirmation is one of five Love Languages author Gary Chapman has identified, the other four being Gifts, Acts of Service, Quality Time and Touch. This book is a highly rated best seller and after reading a from those who had read the book, the author of this page purchased an unabridged copy of the audio version to listen to with her partner and has gained much from this endeavour. It's not a magic formula for making everything right in a relationship, and it does involve effort, but it is certainly an insightful read with solid principles which can lead to both partners feeling much more loved and fulfilled in a long term relationship. For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: Show Details NecessaryHubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam.
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